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It is important that you exercise self-control in your everyday life. Wherever you go, there will be circumstances that will test how firm or strong you are in overcoming your weaknesses and negative attitudes. Self-control allows you to avoid bad habits, take better control of your behaviors and increase your will power. Starting to practice self-control in school, at home and in the community will help you to become a better individual. Here are some important ways on how you can exercise self-control.

Write down your commitments. If you want to overcome a bad habit, writing your commitment is more effective than saying it. You will gain more control of yourself if you really have the strong decision to overcome it. Writing will give you ample time to think and identify the things you want to change. It will give you a sense of direction on what you want to do with your life. Always keep this list so you can check from time to time if you are heading towards your goals.

Identify your weaknesses. In order for you to overcome any negative behavior or habit, you must identify the things that can break your commitment. You should be specific in identifying the factors that can tempt you to break your promises or commitment. Through this, you will become more aware of the things that can tempt you. This will serve as your guide on what things you need to look after to.

Put on your guard always. One way of overcoming something is allowing yourself into a situation wherein you can test your self-control. When you are about to break your commitment, you should remind yourself about the benefits of keeping your promise. You can also say aloud your self promise when you are in that situation. Self assurance, affirmations and visualizations can also help you to remain guarded from temptations. This will remind you on why you have opted to overcome those negative habits.

Do not give up. When you have failed in overcoming your weaknesses, just keep in mind that it takes time to have total self-control over those things. It is important that even in childhood; you are constantly reminded and trained on how important self-control is. Failure is not a sign to give up; rather it is a way to do better. Do not be disappointment if you have failed but rather try to be stronger in order to keep your self promise. Having a positive attitude and strong determination will help you keep your focus. This will help your to achieve more goals in life.

Dr. John E. Neyman, Jr.
Christian Counselor

Dr. John has reared 3 children, Philip, Laura, and Matthew. Dr. John has been teaching families for the last 30 years. He is a family coach that specializes in parenting. Dr. John’s motto is “Empowering parents to transform their homes.” Dr. John was a pastor for 25 years.

Dr. John has been serving as a Counselor/therapist for 30 years. He is currently a Behavior Specialist Consultant and Mobile Therapist in Western PA. Dr. John also is the director /Owner of the Renewed Life Counseling Center. Dr. John is a bestselling author entitled Wake up Live the Life You love: Success and Wake up Live the Life You Love: Freedom.

Dr. John has developed a strategy that parents are able to use immediately, and effectively. It is entitled Power moments with Your Children. It takes less than 1 minute to put a strategy into place. Dr. John holds degrees from Liberty University and Rochville University.

Dr. John has a passion to teach principles that transforms lives. He has spoken to audiences from 4 to 4 thousand. Dr. John’s teachings are practical, pointed, and powerful.

What does self-esteem actually denote? In pure expressions, self-esteem is a quality of the manner we recognize ourselves. It is different from self-image since self-image is solely a plain portrayal of who you are; it doesn’t provide any orientation to being bad or good. Self-esteem, alternatively, is with reference to how we recognize and provide value to ourselves as persons. When we talk about low self-esteem, it commonly indicates that the value you confer to yourself is unconstructive. Low self- esteem indicates that you have an unenthusiastic belief about yourself. A person can perceive himself in diverse perspectives but if he generally feels that he is worthless, he is suffering from low self-esteem. Lots of individuals suffer from it and it has pushed them to so much depression and pain.

A low self-esteem is shown in different means. Because you have a disapproving idea about yourself, you are apt to focus on your faults rather than your good attributes. You disapprove of, accuse, and distrust yourself in many situations. Your bad responses influence your deeds in the long run; you never take on risks and keep away from on good opportunities, feel regretful, and aren’t assured. These behaviors can also impinge on your feelings, igniting hopelessness, self-reproach, or even wrath. And all unwell feelings will display physically since you always feel worn out and uneasy.

These are the 3 major reasons of a low self-esteem:

1. Miserable Childhood

Your childhood will always bring about a major influence on how you esteem yourself. If you didn’t experience the love and care of your parents even as a youngster, you’ll feel deserted and insignificant as you grow up. If your parents were impassive with your activities and didn’t commend your successes, you’ll grow up with no trust in your faculties.

Physical, mental, or emotional abuse from parents, relatives, friends, or strangers is also one more reason that plays a part in a miserable childhood. Physical exploitation can still be healed to a certain point but it’s different with mental and emotional cruelty. The latter are ingrained as they persecute the inner being of a person. Kids who have put up with all these will most expectedly become disheartened and unconfident individuals.

Parents continually play an important responsibility in the upbringing of children since they are the ones who infuse the primary viewpoints in life. Whether these are positive or negative beliefs, they will form the child to grow assured or not.

2. Harmful Relationships

Your associations with others can also play a part in having a low self-esteem. If you were a endless target of discrimination, you can take on this mistaken opinion that you deserved to be abused. As you grow older, your romantic and friendly relationships could also head to low levels of self-confidence if these relations were cruel and violent. These maltreatments can make you feeble, leading you to view yourself as the victim always.

3. Pressures in the Society

Requirements in the community could also contribute to having a low self-esteem.  Today, the society demands for us to appear stunning and glamorous or turn into a totally different person. Many people strive to blend in and meet the standards of society; some of these challenges are being thin and physically good-looking. Our society is very type-casted and usually sets off an individual’s negative beliefs.


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